Debbie's Blog for the love of Nicole: July 2012

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

The Joy Fund Golf Outing

Yesterday was the first

JOY FUND MEMORIAL GOLF OUTING

We all came together at West Point Golf Course, Joy Fund committee members,volunteers and 120 golfers.

All focused on the same goal, raising money and awareness to cure Cystic Fibrosis.We were overwhelmed by the outpouring of kindness and generosity. The day was a great success, tears were in many eyes....Nicole would have loved to be involved in such an amazing day. From heaven she provided us with beautiful weather and touched the hearts of strangers who longed to know her. Her life and story told to many and so her legacy begins. We will continue to shine her light on this disease until a cure is found, so no other family has our pain. We are humbled by the donations of not only funds but the time given to help make this event a success.

Our friends and families our new found supporters, we thank you from our heart and souls for all you did and will continue to do in our daughter's honor.

God Bless You and those you hold dear, and never forget

"To Live for the moments that take your breathe away"

Setting up our registration table

Thank you Nicole for teaching us what is really important in this life

pictures from the event will be posted on the Joy Fund Website
www.thejoyfund.net

Saturday, July 28, 2012

10 months

10 Months Without your smile.I found some new pictures of you today....

it was more than any treasure

Yes, we have changed

Speaking to other parents on loosing a child, I felt it necessary to repeat the grieving parent.

Bereaved parents need to know that others may minimize or misunderstand their grief. Many don't understand the power, depth, intensity, or duration of parental grief. In some instances, bereaved parents are even ignored because some individuals are not able to deal with the tragedy. They find the thought of a child's death too hard, too Inexplicable, or too threatening. Many simply don't know what to say or do and so they don't say or do anything.

Life is forever changed for the grieving parents, some people walk away from the tragedy, and although it hurts, you can not waste the energy it takes to understand why this happens.
The grieving parents need to focus all their strength on God's grace and comfort.
This is an impossible task without the much needed prayer and devotion to your faith.

We can not understand why this happened but we continue to trust even though the pain is overwhelming. We know that God has our loved one under his protection and somehow we must find that peace.

Grief is a tidal wave that over takes you,

smashes down upon you with unimaginable force,

sweeps you up into its darkness,

where you tumble and crash with unidentifiable surfaces,

only to be thrown out on an unknown beach,

bruised, reshaped....

grief will make a new person out of you,

if it doesn't kill you in the making.